Aging has never been something that I have given much thought to. Milestone birthdays like 19, 30 and now 40, were no different to me than any other year. How could I possibly be sad about another year full of good health, memories, and lots of laughter. It is a privilege so many wonderful people are denied.
Is this where I thought I would be in my life when I turned 40, not really. Had I been asked in my early twenties what life would be like now, my response would of likely been quite different than the life I lead today. Lets face it though, life rarely deals you the cards you were hoping for – and it is your choice to either fold or play the heck out of the hand you are dealt.
Every experience I have been through, both good and bad, have brought me to where I am – and where I am is happy.
I had the most wonderful ‘birth’ week leading up to the big 40. One of my close friends planned a Christmas scavenger hunt for myself and The Happy Club. It was so thoughtful and great fun! I also had a pajamas and Christmas movie night which was a perfectly magical evening. I am truly blessed to have an amazing ‘crew’ of people in my life!
When I thought about how I wanted to spend my actual birthday, the same idea kept popping into my head – I want to spend it alone. Not in a sad and depressing I’m going to eat a container of ice cream and cry way, but in a I want to do whatever I choose way. So I started making a list in the weeks leading up to my birthday of things I have always wanted to do, along with some of my favorite things to do. Aside from some time spent with my Granny and my Mom, I celebrated by myself, and it was a fantastic day! There is one thing I have discovered through getting older – If you don’t love yourself and enjoy your own company, you will never truly be happy, no matter how many people are around you.
Ok enough of the self-help pep talk, here is how I spent my day!
I started my day enjoying a coffee and watching the sunrise at Hillcrest park. It wasn’t one of the most beautiful sunrises I have seen, but it was a calm and crisp morning – and you can find beauty in everything if you really look for it.
Next it was back home for breakfast. Now you can’t have the standard pancakes or bacon and eggs on your 40th birthday. So I decided on a bowl of just the marshmallows from Lucky Charms cereal. This is something I’m pretty sure I dreamt of having as a child, and it did not disappoint. Yes, it was a tad on the sweet side and I won’t likely be added it to my daily breakfast routine, but yum yum!
I love singing and dancing in the shower. I even have a microphone scrubby to help my inner songstress come out. My normal shower music is the Pitbull station on the satellite radio. I wanted to switch it up though, so I put the stereo in the bathroom, set my ipod to shuffle, and hoped for the best.
These are the songs that I performed in my birthday shower concert:
Justin Bieber – Sorry
Shaggy – That Love
K.D. Lang – Hallelujah – I do want to apologize to my neighbors for this one, at the time I was really in the zone and thought I was hitting all the high notes perfectly.
Chet Atkins – Yakety Axe
Celine Dion – Its All Coming Back to Me Now
Not a bad list, I did add Footloose on at the end, because if you haven’t had a shower dance party to Footloose you haven’t really lived!
Showered and ready to go – time to venture out! My first stop was one of my favorite places, Chapters – aka my happy place. I got myself a delicious Starbucks beverage and rather then go to the normal sections I usually browse, I tried something new. I first went to the humor section (just for you Alex) closed my eyes and picked a book. I then went to the computer and typed in “How to” choosing the first book on the list. I dedicated a half hour of reading time to each book. I would like to say that my life was enlightened by the books I picked, but alas I cannot. First off I read, or I guess I should say looked at ‘The Sugar Bush Chronicles’ – a book about the world’s most photographed squirrel. It was riveting. Next was ‘How To Win Friends & Influence People’. Really people?? That is the number one searched How To book?! I was hoping for maybe How To Churn Butter or How To Play a Guitar. I feel like I can write a one page book on how to win friends and influence people, #1 step….Be Yourself! Moving on…
At the beginning of the year I set out a goal to be in my best possible shape by my birthday – and while I have not quite reached my goal, I am proud of the work and progress I have achieved. So I went into a lingerie store, picked out the skimpiest, sexiest outfit I could find and tried it on. I often wonder why these lingerie stores don’t have some better ‘mood’ lighting in their change rooms. Nothing makes a woman feel better about trying on revealing outfits then poorly angled mirrors and fluorescent lighting. That being said, after laughing my way through trying to figure out how to wear this outfit, I was quite surprised how it looked – I might of even bought it.
Just incase you aren’t aware, I love Christmas! So naturally I had to visit Santa Claus for my 40th birthday. We had a nice chat, he told me I didn’t look anywhere close to being 40 (thanks Santa!) and we talked about which wine is better, red or white. He asked me to write him a letter telling him what I got for my birthday and if I was being naughty or nice – not the normal conversation that mall Santa is used to I’m sure.
The next stop on my birthday was a very important one, visiting with my granny. I simply adore this woman – she is one of the closest people to me in my life.
After hanging with granny for a bit I was off to the tree farm. This is one place I have always wanted to check out but have never made it there.
It was so beautiful! I didn’t venture too far because I was alone and my sense of direction is terrible, but I will definitely be going back! If you haven’t gone for a walk out there, I highly recommend it.
Side note to this stop – when I went to leave the tree farm my car was stuck. There were no parking spots when I got there so I decided on a spot that did appear to have deep squishy snow, but I crossed my fingers and hoped for the best. Oops, bad idea – but guess what?! I got my car out all by myself. This is a big accomplishment for me who usually panics, guns it, and digs myself into a nice rut. This time, slow and steady I rocked the car back and forth and bam! got myself out. An unplanned addition to my birthday to do list hehe.
Another important stop for me was camp -my dad and grandpa built our camp together. I lost my dad 16 years ago, and this is also the spot where my grandpa’s ashes were laid to rest. I told them I loved them and missed them and made them a snow heart – after that I couldn’t feel my fingers anymore so I headed back to town.
My Mom had wanted to take me for lunch and shopping on my birthday. After telling her I was planning on spending the day alone I asked if we could do it the next day instead. Her response…’Absolutely not! I need to see you on your birthday!’ This is why I love this woman so much – no matter how old I am she is still always there, being a Mom. I only wish she realized what an amazing parent she has been and continues to be. Did she make mistakes, sure, but show me a perfect parent – and I’ll show you my unicorn in the back yard. I would not trade her for anyone else in the world!
We had such a lovely visit followed by dinner at one of my favorite restaurants. Our selfie looked a little like two toddlers trying to be photographed by their parents, so instead, here is a picture of us when I was a baby.
Finally we come to the last stop of my day – a Jacuzzi suite. I am not sure if I have even been more content – relaxing in some warm bubbly water, glass of wine in hand, listening to my favorite Backtrax USA on the radio and watching the Habs play on the TV.
Oh, and who says the 40 candles need to be on a cake!
I am so looking forward to another year of adventures, love, and laughter. Cheers!!